KAHWIN MUDA

Bro, kenapa hang sibuk sangat nak kahwin muda? Cer habaq sikit..

Jawapan common :

1- NAK ELAK MAKSIAT

2- NAK JAGA MATA/HATI

Adakah nilai perkahwinan hanya sekadar ini? Hanya sekadar ghairah mahu melakukan hubungan seks secara halal? Then lepas tu? Cerai? Cari orang lain pula?

Sebenarnya, benda ini perlu dilakukan sebelum berkahwin lagi.

Marriage is a big issue dude. It's about a lifetime. It's about responsibility. 

Marriage isn't all about you cuddle her on the bed. Isn't all about you kiss her on the forehead. Isn't about you hug her all the time. 

You also need to consider if someday you guys need to face financial problem. If someday she pregnants in the middle of her studies.

What should you do if someday you guys have some misunderstanding. How you control yourself untuk sabar dan tolerate dengan dia, untuk tak tinggikan suara pada dia, tak tengking dia, tak naikkan tangan pada dia. Atau yang perempuan pula bila ada masalah terus minta cerai. Yang lelaki pula sibuk nak kahwin lain.

Most importantly, marriage isn't a goal. It's higher level of journey in your life. We are Muslim. Our goal is to reach Allah's pleasure. Our goal is to reach the Jannah. Our goal is to breed a good children.

We have been created for purposes. As a servant, as a khalifah.

Then why you damaged your heart with a filthy bad deeds before marriage? Why you waste your time by thinking of him/her?

If we couldn't fulfill our amal fardhi and compulsary ibadah asked by Him, we couldn't even take care of our own heart, then why you are thinking of moving to another level of responsibility?

Seriously if you couldn't even take your leg to perform daily prayers, you cannot handle your heart problem, how do you expect you could take yourself to the heaven? And if you couldn't even take youself to heaven, how do you expext to take another?

Please, be serious in marriage. It's about the responsibilities you have to hold for your whole life and hereafter.

Make some preparation, pure your heart, build a good relationship with people, then make du'a and left the rest to Allah. He will surely arrange the best people to become your partner. You just have to believe, he never makes a mistake. He will give you when He knows you are ready.

Lastly, don't rush into marriage just because you worried most of your friends already heve a spouse. He will give you soon. He will. Have faith, and just believe in Him. 

May Allah bless us..